One day, you’re 17 and you’re planning for someday. And then quietly, without you ever really noticing, someday is today. And then someday is yesterday. And this is your life.
This is one of my favorite moments in the movie: Gus makes a joke about Isaac’s disability and then Isaac is like, “Not only am I going to call you out and refuse to accept you making me the butt of your joke; I’m also going to do it in a way that shows you that I am funnier than you are.” And Gus is momentarily defensive and then like, “Okay. Yeah. Fair enough.”
Nat improvised that line, by the way. Such a great actor. He’s going to be so amazing as Q in Paper Towns.
did… did he just praise his own movie again….
when was the last time a NON-BLIND guy made fun of a BLIND guy in a teen romance movie? Ever? I don’t think it has happened ever
HE PRAISED AN ACTOR FOR IMPROVISING A LINE DOES IT NEVER END WITH YOU PEOPLE.
john green is not a director
john green is not a director
john green is not a director
- john green is not a director
- john green is not a director
JOHN GREEN IS NOT A DIRECTOR. HIS PRAISE OF THE MOVIE IS OUT OF ADMIRATION OF THE ACTORS, DIRECTOR, AND PRODUCERS. NOT OUT OF SELF-PRAISE. HE ONLY WROTE THE NOVEL; EVERYTHING ELSE WAS OUT OF HIS CONTROL
next person I see hating on john for no reason gets a kick to the dick
Start a petition
THIS IS EVERYTHING.
How does this have 15,000 notes?
Anyway, context: I received this good advice from my chaplaincy supervisor when I worked as a student chaplain at a children’s hospital in 2000. We were talking not about any of the terrible things I’d witnessed at the hospital but about my breakup with my college girlfriend.
One time when I was a chaplain, this especially awful thing happened, and a bunch of us had to attend this post trauma debriefing/group therapy session. (The theory goes that this was a way to prevent or minimize PTSD, I think.) So here is this big group of people—doctors, nurses, social workers, paramedics, etc.—all being forced to attend this group therapy session they don’t particularly want to be at, and the counselor person is asking all of us to recount what happened that night, which no one is particularly inclined to do.
Eventually, I tell a story about my girlfriend: When I came home the morning after this thing had happened, I was really freaking out, and she was not particularly empathetic. This story animates everyone: They all start talking about my girlfriend, and how she’s just like their boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse, and how I should really break up with her, because that’ll show her.
So I did break up with her.
Of course, I immediately regretted it, but once she was free of obligation to me she probably felt tremendous relief and had no intention of re-entangling. (This was very sane and mature of her, in retrospect.) So I spent my days moping around the hospital, not because of the horrible things I’d seen but because I missed this woman so much. And I felt like an idiot being so upset over this girl when there were far worse things happening around me at the hospital every day.
Which just made everything worse: I was sad because I was no longer close to this woman I loved. And then I was ashamed because I felt more upset about my own stupid romantic problems than about the illness and death that was all around me in the hospital. I felt like my problems were silly and small, but they still made me very sad, and I could never seem to get out of that spiral.
All of this combined to make me super annoying to be around. Fortunately, I was surrounded by chaplains, who are basically professionally empathetic, and are required by job description to listen to you.
It was my supervisor who finally helped me understand why I was so sad, and that I should feel sad. So often we try to make other people feel better by minimizing their pain, by telling them that it will get better (which it will) or that there are worse things in the world (which there are). But that’s not what I actually needed. What I actually needed was for someone to tell me that it hurt because it mattered.
I have found this very useful to think about over the years, and I find that it is a lot easier and more bearable to be sad when you aren’t constantly berating yourself for being sad.
Between online-John and author-John (particularly in TFiOS) I just love what he has to say about suffering.
Minimising someone’s pain is so very helpful even if your comment seems to you like it should be comforting. Acknowledging someone’s pain can be among the most helpful things I think.
John Green implying its risky moves by telling stories about women. Because nobody cares and this “folk hero” is our savior by doing the impossible. Fuck off John Green. You male savior ding dong
Stop making villains out of people that aren’t the problem. What he’s saying is that according to the massively close-minded and bigoted film industry, female leads aren’t as “universally appealing” as male leads. John Green is pointing out the obvious about society’s misogyny, not about his own.He’s pointing out that society by and large considers female leads as unappealing to males, but considers male leads equally appealing to men and women. Don’t get pissed at him for telling a sad truth of the film industry; get pissed at the film industry for being about three centuries behind. don’t shoot the fucking messenger.
Casually looking at last years movie summer hits:
- Transformer: Age of Extinction —- Male lead
- The Amazing Spider Man 2 —— Male lead
- X- Men: Days of the Future Past —- Male lead
- Iron Man 3 —- Male lead
- The Great Gatsby —- Male lead
- World War Z — Male Lead
- The Lone Ranger —- Male Lead
- How to Train Your Dragon —- animation yet Male voice
I would go on but hopefully by now people see a huge trend in summer movies hits and understand why tfios is not only unique but important even during the “liberal minded” year of 2014… :)
^This. Stop hating on John Green everyone.
Gotta love how when someone actually does something for equality and yet Tumblr is STILL mad at them.
I’m just really confused about the whole John Green hate thing?
I understand being frustrated with (and hurt by) some of the things that are said about John Green and the impact on YA, especially when there are so many minority authors who don’t get the exposure they deserve. There are many many problematic things being said. But John Green is not the one who said those things, nor can he control what others say about him.
In fact John Green spends quite a lot of time actively highlighting the problems with YA, pointing out other authors who deserve attention, talking about other issues of inequality, and both organizing fundraisers and donating his own money to such causes. He co-produces multiple channels designed to increase information access to education, sexual education, and health care.
I just don’t understand what else people think he should be doing? In the scheme of allies and advocates John is doing a pretty good job. Certainly not a perfect job, but if you’re going to reject anyone who isn’t a perfect advocate you’re going to find yourself very alone in your cause (and would probably have to bow out yourself, because I’ve never met a perfect advocate).
One of the foundational concepts of social justice is that you cannot blame the privileged for being privileged. John Green is a white dude, yes, this is true. But that does not mean that John should not celebrate his success. Should John be asked to use his privilege to help deconstruct the systems that gave it to him? Absolutely, and I think he continues to do a better job of that the longer he’s in the spotlight. And sure, continue to point out ways he could continue to improve - but put your knives away before you do it.
Successful social change on a massive scale requires allies who have privilege. If we continue to treat privileged individuals so poorly because they have not refused to celebrate any kind of personal success or have otherwise not met the impossible standards many hold them to, it is only a detriment to the cause.
Just as feminism is not about devaluing men, social justice of any kind should not be about devaluing the privileged group but bringing value to the oppressed. It is a positive transaction, not a negative.
Ask for high standards, absolutely. Ask for more. Demand equity. Explore the issues at play here. Put a critical lens to John Green’s success. But don’t hate the person, hate the system.
#i’m so baffled and frustrated at this honestly#because whenever people within the social justice community become hateful towards someone like this it just makes no sense to me#there is no such thing as a perfect ally#there just isn’t#i’m not one and you’re not one#but why are people directing so much vitriol at someone who openly admits that about himself and tries to do better??#i just#there are so many better places to direct your vitriol#i just don’t know what else he could be doing#it’s so counterproductive to roast someone who is genuinely trying their best#that hatred would be so much better directed at the system itself#or at the assholes who don’t give a fuck about their privilege#you know?#ajkshdljhsd gah
Q:You ought to donate some of the money that the tfios movie makes to cancer charities
I’ve been getting this question a lot, and I definitely understand it.
First off, Sarah and I do donate both to organizations that fund cancer research and to organizations that support people living with cancer in other ways, and we’ll continue to do so.
Our personal giving is focused on organizations fighting global poverty, childhood illness, and gender inequality, but we do donate to cancer-related charities.
But it’s important to understand that I do not get money from ticket sales of The Fault in Our Stars movie. (This is true for almost all authors, and it’s okay with me, because I did not make the movie.) I was paid for the movie rights when filming began, and I’d get a bonus if the movie did amazingly well, but I don’t get a percentage of ticket sales or anything.
So just to be clear, I am not promoting the TIOS movie because I’ll make money if it does well; I’m promoting it because I genuinely love it and am very proud of the people who made it.
Sarah and I are committed to what Hank calls “secular tithing,” in which we donate a consistent percentage of our income to nonprofit organizations. That will continue, but we do that giving privately.
I have never read a John Green novel.
But I would care a lot more about critiques of him if any of the people I’ve seen shitting on him had actually read a John Green novel either.
Or pretty much anything that has ever come out of his mouth.
It’s really disgusting that people accuse John Green, a writer with clinical depression and anxiety to the point of it being very disabling at different times of his life, as someone who might romanticize and encourage teen suicide.
As an aside, I love his self awareness about his own writing. That shit is hard to do.
On the existence of his crash course videos alone, which provide free, accessible, consistent, intersectional, and quality higher level education to anyone with an internet connection (which is a fucking revolutionary concept and execution and should not be treated lightly) I am forever a fan of this man.
#it’s actually tremendously frustrating to watch this man#who is SO conscious of his privilege and consistently attempts to bring attention to it#and empower non-privilege people#get attacked for things that are either outside of his control#(such as being on the TIME 100 list)#or completely outrageous#(fetishizing illness?? are you kidding me??? he has two terminally ill protagonists who are whole characters and whose illness is a part of them#that is not fetishization#that is representation)#it’s very frustrating because i feel as though people sometimes feel the need to jump on the hate bandwagon#with things they don’t actually know much about#please feel free to hate something if you’ve engaged with it!!!#but the mindless john green hate is actually tremendously frustrating to come across#yeah imma stick with him on all his criticisms of his books#those are all spot-on#and those are all TOTES LEGIT things to complain about#and I have done so at times in the past!#but his books are still enjoyable BECAUSE they do things like deconstruct the magic pixie dream girl#and it blows my mind that people get that so backwards sometimes
(courtesy of emilianadarling)
Shailene Woodley wrote about John Green for Time’s “The 100 Most Influential People,” 2014 [link].
1. I am so thrilled to have been named to the 2014 TIME 100. Shai’s essay is so kind and generous. That sentence about planets and moons is a lovely goal for us all to reach toward. Now, that said, I’m no prophet. I’m a guy who not too long ago tried to wax his chin.
2. Do I really look like that illustration?
I dislike the phrase ‘Internet friends,’ because it implies that people you know online aren’t really your friends, that somehow the friendship is less real or meaningful to you because it happens through Skype or text messages. The measure of a friendship is not its physicality but its significance. Good friendships, online or off, urge us toward empathy; they give us comfort and also pull us out of the prisons of our selves